When Donkeys Fly

REM

2008-06-23T10:14:00.000-07:00

This past Saturday night I went to see REM play at Lakewood here in Atlanta. It was probably the best Rock Concert that I have ever attended. It definitely helped that we had amazing seats, 7th row Center, and that Michael, Peter and Mike were on fire with the hometown crowd. They never stopped, played for over 2 hours and 28 songs. The crowd was amazing and the vibe was electric. Even 2 days later I'm still thinking of how much fun and how good of a show it was. If you ever get a chance to see REM live, go, you won't be disappointed.

Here is the set list, I've bolded my favorites from the show:

ATLANTA, GEORGIA
1. These Days 2. Living Well Is the Best Revenge 3. So Fast, So Numb 4. What's the Frequency, Kenneth? 5. Time After Time 6. Driver 8 7. Man-Sized Wreath 8. Walk Unafraid 9. Hollow Man 10. Ignoreland 11. Houston 12. Electrolite 13. (Don’t Go Back To) Rockville 14. Auctioneer 15. Harborcoat 16. The One I Love 17. I've Been High 18. Let Me In 19. Bad Day 20. Horse To Water 21. Orange Crush 22. I'm Gonna DJ 23. Supernatural Superserious 24. Losing My Religion 25. Pretty Persuasion 26. Nightswimming 27. Fall On Me (w/ Johnny Marr) 28. Man On The Moon (w/ Johnny Marr)

Starbucks!

2008-06-09T06:18:00.000-07:00

I was driving my usual route to work this morning and noticed that a new Starbucks has opened on the corner of Ralph McGill and Boulevard in the Old Fourth Ward. Why is this significant or newsworthy? Its just a Starbucks you say. Oh no, it is so much more. My neck of the woods in the Old Fourth Ward has been making progress...slowly. Boulevard, the main street that runs from Freedom Parkway to Ponce, is the last "hanger on" for our Section 8 friends. The fact that a Starbucks opened in the middle of all of this means to me, they know something. Starbucks is not just a coffee house, they are a harbinger of change. Now the question is, will I risk my life to walk up the 3 blocks to get some coffee? I think I just might. Somebody has to be the urban pioneer and why not me?

The weekend was a hot one y'all! Here's a list in review a la Frank Green:

Virginia Highlands Fest (VIP parking at Kevin's)
Drunk Straight Girls
Remembering how much fun Blakes can be
Zocalo!
Wishing away hangovers
Sweating to the Oldies
Oh and did I share the Starbucks news?!

Mama Nature

2008-03-17T12:49:00.000-07:00

Can you believe it? A tornado in downtown Atlanta! (the cylinder of clouds and debris just to the right of the building with the triangle lights on top in the far left of the photo) Crazy...I live about a mile east of downtown and about a mile north of Cabbagetown. Cabbagetown was where the tornado blew off the top front corner of a huge brick cotton mill turned loft development and tore down 100 year old oak trees. I got a phone call on Saturday morning at 8:30 from my Dad asking if I was ok. Not having even know about the tornado until that point I was like, "I'm a little bit hung over, but nothing another couple hours of sleep won't take care of" then he told me about the tornado. Being a weather geek, I couldn't believe it...so I jumped out of bed, grabbed my camera, went to Dunkin Donuts for coffee and got in the XTerra to check things out. First I drove down to the Cotton Mill Lofts. I turned right on Dekalb Ave and started seeing debris in the road...then I pulled up to Boulevard and couldn't believe it! The top front corner of the build was just gone. To my right was an automotive parts warehouse that was pretty much demolished and the neighborhood behind that (Jackson Street) was a mess. I couldn't believe that nobody was hurt looking at these buildings. I decided to drive downtown and check things out...I headed down Decatur Street, passed Georgia State, passed Underground Atlanta - both ok- and then was stopped at a road closure. There was a taxi in front of me that I decided to follow...he went up a one way street, the wrong way (we had no choice) and then took a right on to Peachtree and then a left on Trinity. So did I. I parked two blocks from the Tabernacle Theater and walked up Trinity towards Centennial Olympic Park. I immediately noticed glass everywhere and realized that wearing flip flops was not the best choice. Walking up towards the park, I noticed windows shattered at Ted's Montana Grill, the Tabernacle, all the hotels and the Equitable Building was hit really bad. I then came up to Techwood Drive...it was crazy. Cars were smashed by bricks and huge iron billboards bent over like taffy. Walking through Centennial Park, trees were knocked down as where 60 foot tall towers from the Olympics and insulation was everywhere. It probably came from the Omni or the World Congress Center, both which were hit really bad. I headed back to my car and back to the house. Glad I was able to drive right into downtown before they closed all the roads. It was amazing to see the power of a tornado up close...amazing still that with all that damage a mile away from my house, the gates on my fence (which always shut, even with a light wind) remained untouched and sitting perfectly open. Amazing.

British Columbia

2008-02-12T07:04:00.000-08:00

Just got home from a week in Canada...went out west to Vancouver and then up to Whistler for some skiing...we happened to be in Whistler for the "gay ski week" which really should be called "kind of boring ski week". I wouldn't go here expecting to have a big party. The skiing however was epic, with over 360 inches of snow in Whistler this year all ready! We did hit 2 different Apres Ski parties, but had to drink ourselves into having fun. The ski village is very well put together and a lot of fun to walk around. Ran into David Duchovny at the Billabong Snowboard store...he is very attractive in person. He is up in British Columbia filming a new (yet to be named) X Files Movie. All-in-all it was a great trip and I was able to spend a lot of quality time with Marcus and Jeff. Canada is suprisingly gay friendly and nobody in the village seemed to really look twice at guys holding hands or kissing in public - that totally amazed me, as we know how homophobic most of America is.

NY NY

2008-01-30T07:17:00.000-08:00

I just got back from a business trip to NYC...I wasn't even there for 24 hours...got in Monday at 6PM and left on Tuesday at 3:30PM...it was enough time for me to realize that I really like that town...its kind of an odd thing to say, because who doesn't like NYC? But I literally have been running away from Manhattan for the past 13 years. I am from upstate NY and went to college with many, many people from the tri-state area...either you were from Northern Jersey, Connecticut, Long Island or Westchester County...I was one of the outsiders from another part of NY. Either way, I really felt at home with all my friends and loved college. But when we all graduated, everybody was moving to the City. I felt smothered and claustrophobic...I wanted to get out and explore another city and grow into my true self. I didn't want to be stuck in college. In closing that door so quickly and strongly, I really may have missed out on the ability to grow with my friends in a city that is close to who I am. Living in Atlanta is great, and I have been sooo lucky with my friends here and the people of this city. But, sometimes people don't get me and that's been hard over the years - I've adjusted and grown and am a better person for it...the South really does teach you how to have a little class y'all! I do miss the New Yorker in me though...maybe I'll start saying fuck a bit more and honking my horn. It will make me feel like I'm home.

RIP

2008-01-23T09:49:00.001-08:00

Heath Ledger :: 1979-2008

These Are The Days

2008-01-22T10:46:00.000-08:00

I think that it is when you become the busiest and most consumed that things actually begin happening for you...what do I mean? Well, when you find yourself busy and focused, you are less likely to dwell on the details with multiple issues. In the next 6 weeks, I will be traveling on 5 trips. I am also focused on my running and lifting, as #35 gets closer with each passing day. Not to mention American Idol is back and who can't get caught up in that whirlwind? As a result of all this, my focus is well, focused. Friends are in the forefront and life is good. I actually feel like cooking something, which only happens if I feel alignment in my life. Good friends, good food, good fun? Who's free for a Sunday dinner?

BTW...if you do decide to go and see Cloverfield, make sure you take some Dramamine. This is one of only 2 movies I have walked out of...I seriously was having a motion sickness reaction...headache, upset stomach and sweaty palms...it was crazy. The other movie? Bonfires of the Vanities - yawn.

Channeling Ann Curry

2008-01-02T10:26:00.000-08:00

Good Morning 2008, Good Morning Everybody, in the News this morning, Good Morning. Its Jan 2nd and absolutely freezing! Its still 28 degrees and almost 2PM. Winter has officially arrived...I hope it packs up and leaves soon. Looking forward into 2008, I see a year of growth for me and a year of deciding what I have next to do on my list of life. If I have to make one resolution it would be "to be more assertive" - in all aspects of my life. Sometimes I'm just not a happy camper and that is just not acceptable to me anymore. There. Done.

"Quarter plus a Dime" Life Crisis

2007-12-28T09:29:00.000-08:00

2008 is a big year for me. I turn 35, which is the beginning of the end - right? I mean its all downhill to 40. I just bought some new L'Oreal Regenerist Eye Cream. It's my new best friend. This year is the year to beat all previous years. I have to admit, on one hand, I do like to hear people say, wow, you don't look 35. Whatever 35 is suppose to look like, I'm glad its not me. On the other hand, why am I always trying so hard to be somebody other than myself? Blah, blah, blah, same old story, different mid-life crisis. Its a Quarter plus a dime life crisis. Am I were I expected? Where am I headed? Is Oprah ever, ever going to get those puffy eyes fixed? Why do I worry so much about things I can't control? This year is about being healthy, happy and horny. The latter, I don't need so much help with, but better it should be explained as resolving my horniness with another person. As I look into 2008, I see a year of fun, travel and growth. Nights of rubbing on eye cream and mornings full of SPF30 application. Drinking and frolicking, pictures with friends and watching sunsets alone (I actually like this). As I flew out of the ALB this week and watched the sunrise over Long Island, I realized two things, Long Island is surprisingly small from 25,000 feet and the Earth is a magnificently beautiful place. Who would have thought as a I clutched my styrofoam 4 ounce coffee complete with powdered eggshells, I mean cream, (Delta please drop the extra 3 cents and get mini-moos for all flights), I would have so much self reflection? Maybe its me realizing that my life is half over and I'm still clawing at shadows of self doubt that have haunted me for years or the fact that its me realizing that my life is half started and its time to move past these demons of self doubt and put them to bed. Funny that the only person truly keeping me down is not the Man, but one man - me. So as I look out to 2008 with a non crow's footed eye, I am happy to be turning 35 and look forward to a year full of hope, happiness, friends and memories. Oh yeh, and Oprah, please, please get your eyes done.

3rd Marathon Done!

2007-12-10T07:23:00.000-08:00

It's Monday and I'm feeling really good...had a great weekend with the boys in Charleston (if you haven't been, go, it's a great old Southern City) for the Kiawah Island Marathon. I'm very proud of all of us! I'm a bit disappointed that my time wasn't a bit faster, but I still did get a PR. I actually felt great and felt like I was running faster, but the clock doesn't lie. Still, today, I feel great, I actually feel like I could go running today. These marathon things just keep getting easier...next year we are doing Chicago and I'll be 35 - so perhaps, if I actually train hard, I might be able to run 3:15 and qualify for Boston. Its good to have dreams!

Wed on the CW and Bravo

2007-12-06T07:14:00.000-08:00

I'm completely sucked into a bunch of shows that I clearly am not the demographic for...first on Wed we have ANTP. For those of who aren't in the loop, this stands from America's Next Top Model. I'm glad that Bianca is gone...tough girl from Queens? Been there, done that. Go back to the streets. Then we have Gossip Girl...wtf? This show has a grip on me and it fills the void left when the OC went dark last season. The guys are hot, except for Chuck Bass? I think that's his name...I then switch over to Project Runway - what a mess - but I love it. I'm still amazed that they can make clothes - it looks like such a skill. I don't get the whole pattern thing. Next week Jack has a big secret to tell us...I'll be watching.

So this Saturday I'm running my 3rd marathon! I'm very excited about it and look forward to a great run...this is definitely different then my first 2, which might actually mean I'm starting to enjoy these things...the marathon is in Charleston (Kiawah Island) and I am planning on jumping into the Atlantic Ocean after the race...it might be a bit cold, but the air temps are forecast to be in the mid 70s...after a marathon, it will feel great! (channeling Tony the Tiger)

December

2007-11-29T07:26:00.000-08:00

I can't believe its almost December! Where has November gone...its been a quick month, that's for sure. I am gearing up for the Kiawah Island Marathon next weekend and am excited for it to be over...I've been training for 4 months and am getting tired of having to go running...I have one more 10 miler this weekend and then shorter runs next week. Crazy thing is I think that I have gained weight during this process, which to me seems impossible. My jeans are falling off of me and yet the scale at the gym says 168. I think that it off by at least 4-5 pounds...it has to be. Maybe they have a grand plan to make people think they are 5 pounds heavier than they really are to push them to renew their membership...its working on me. Not that being 5 9, 168 is fat by any means, but I truly thought I was leaner. Oh well. I was trying to slim down so when I gained 10 pounds this holiday season I'd be back to normal. Maybe its because I'm getting older and my metabolism is finally taking a hit. Next year is a big one for me - 35. Me, turning 35. Will I finally have to grow up? No more Abercrombie? A friend told be last night that I looked youthful...to which another friend added, its just because you dress like a teenager. Do men also have to dress age appropriate? What is age appropriate dress for a 35 year old? I just don't know. Maybe I should get lessons from Clinton and Stacy on What Not to Wear...the Toy Party is this Sunday...I'm going to try and dress age appropriate for this event and see what happens...

Wow

2007-10-29T09:35:00.000-07:00

I'm completely exhausted today. The weekend was jam packed, with us having a huge Halloween party and all. However, I woke up this morning - barely - and am trying to hang in there at work, although all I can think about is going home and sleeping. Here is a recap of the weekend:

Friday - Layed low and started to organize the house for the party. Rolled up all of the rugs and its a good thing too, since our floors were disgusting on Sunday morning.

Saturday - Started the day off with a 20 mile run 2:43:16, ~8:09 per mile. I felt good...was not as tired as I thought I would be. Continued setting up for the party and getting the house ready. The party was crazy...we had about 150 people in the backyard, in the house and on the porch. Just about everybody was dressed up and the only issue we had was the weather - it was a bit cold, but the heater we rented filled up the tent pretty good. My favorite costume was Dan B.'s...he was holding a plastic plate with a bunch of different carpet samples and a knife/fork. He was a carpet muncher. Very clever. Ended up at the Body Shop - don't ever go there...ever.

Sunday - Woke up to a beautiful day and a 1/4 keg of Sweetwater to finish. Then to Blakes, then to Zocalo, then to Blakes, then to Gilberts, then to Checkers and finally home. I tossed and turned all night, barely getting any sleep. Needless to say, I'm exhausted today. I can't wait to go home and nap.

The party was a success so it was worth it all, but let's not do it again anytime soon.

The God Son

2007-10-23T09:08:00.000-07:00

My God Son/Nephew turned 1 last week...I may be biased, but I think he is completely adorable!

Living in Whitney's Hood

2007-10-18T06:11:00.000-07:00

If Whitney spiraled any further, she probably would have ended up living on Boulevard in the Old Fourth Ward. This is my 'interesting' neighborhood that has a strip of Section 8 housing running right down the middle. Since I bought my house in April, its been, well, interesting...here are some reasons I enjoy my life in the Old Fourth:

Being able to say "That's my house" while watching Ciara's '1-2 Step' video
Perfecting the look of 'No, I 'd don't want any crack', with just a squint of the eye and a shake of the head
Beginning to understand the drug culture in Atlanta...guys that wear white wife beaters = drug dealers
Feeling like you are in Vietnam when you are buzzed by a black Police helicopter who is hovering WAY too close to your house while cops search your backyard for somebody...I think they were looking for a lost dog?
Having the only white hooker in your neighborhood walk down your street and tell you that you're hot. Thanks!
Getting a huge cut on your leg from a chicken bone thrown back at me while mowing my lawn...(I even had to get a tetanus shot!) And I have a great scar on my leg to prove it!
Turning up Kanye West's "Stronger" while at a red light and watching the kin folk enjoy the tune by dancing in the cross walk
Having a very nice (and attractive) ATL police officer draw his weapon and search my basement (mind-out-of-gutter) for the person who decided to come on in and say hello (thankfully, he wasn't there)

And that's only been 6 months. Wow. Thanks be to Jesus for my roomie...I couldn't have done it all alone with out his guidance! I'm officially a brotha! Ok, only in my head...

Cleaning House

2007-10-17T07:14:00.000-07:00

I've always found it extremely difficult to throw anything away...I have tee shirts from when I was in 9th grade and I still wear some of them. I have a report I did on South Dakota, in 5th Grade, in my night stand - you never know when you may have to pull out a tid-bit of knowledge on the Mount Rushmore State. Last night, I decided to go through my 200 tee-shirts and select a few to send off to the Salvation Army...it was impossibly hard. As I started going through them, I realized this was indeed a difficult task. I managed to put aside 10 tees and a bunch of sweaters I have been carrying around since I actually lived in a place where the temperature was below freezing consistently (that's 12 years ago). I think it was a good start...I barely wear any of this stuff, it's just so hard to get rid of! Once I had the selected few in a bag, I felt OK about sending them off - they are going to a better place where they can bring joy and comfort to folks in Southwest DeKalb. I need to do some housecleaning more often, hopefully it will get easier each time.

Back From The Dead

2007-10-15T13:57:00.000-07:00

I first want to apologize to Anonymous for stealing 15 seconds of his/her life. If I could give it back to you, I would. Its been such an active Summer I have neglected my blog 100% and for that I should be flogged and not in a good 'S & M' type way. What have I been up to? I have been training for another marathon and completed my first 20 mile run yesterday. I actually felt great, considering I have been ramping up so quickly. Since it was over 100 degrees in the ATL for all of August, I barely was able to finish a 5 mile run, lest any further. With the marathon in December, I've been pushing my schedule much more aggressively than I would have liked. Minus a number of sore joints and muscles, I'm doing better than I thought I would. I make an solemn vow to try and post here more often...seriously, my life is kind of boring, so if you want to hear about how I can't figure out Hero's or how my running is going or how I will never be in a relationship or how my house is holding up, (I just winterized the lawn this weekend!), check back. I'm the king, nay prince - they are much younger and cuter, no? - of 'Monotony' - a place that exists for all of us, where not much happens and life goes on. I'll work to shake things up, I always say that, let's see what I can fandangle...

My New Home

2007-06-18T09:55:00.000-07:00

It has been a while since I last posted...I can't believe its been 6 weeks! Damn. Time is moving already this Summer. In the past 6 weeks things have been a bit crazy...I moved into a new house, my central air broke and I was without it for a week!, I got a promotion at work and I have traveled to Pensacola, Charlotte and Los Angeles for a mix of vacation and work. I'm still working through unpacking and making my new house an actual home. It's not an easy thing to do...packing, moving and unpacking make my life very stressful! Oh yeah, and in additional to all of this I was attacked by my lawn mower leaving a nice 6 inch gash on my left leg. This weekend coming up is Pride and the following weekend I'm visiting with family. June is almost done! I actually like Fall a lot better than Summer, so I'm trying to keep busy waiting for my favorite season to come upon us. I have plans for a trip to NYC, Chicago and Boston/P-Town lined up for the summer...that's enough, considering I also want to start landscaping my backyard. It would help if we could get some rain though...so that's whats been going on with me...here is a pic of me and my housemate in P-Cola! Ah...life at the beach!

Vegas and Construction

2007-05-11T11:20:00.000-07:00

I am finally recovering from my trip to Vegas for our yearly conference. Vegas wears me out. I stayed at NY NY this time...Vegas is clearly a mix of conference goers and Middle America. I didn't realize that people still used fanny packs. Although what happens in Vegas, is suppose to stay in Vegas, I have to share that I did have a fun night, one night...I am proud of myself and the game I was able to pull. I still got it and it was good...anyway...I started construction on my house this week, well I didn't start, but my contractor did...he already has a lot done! And can I tell you, the shower is a lot larger than I thought it was going to be...I could probably fit 4 people in there...any takers? Glad its the weekend...daddy needs some sleep!

Inman Park Festival

2007-04-30T06:05:00.000-07:00

This past weekend was what we call a 'Chamber of Commerce Weekend'. The weather was amazing, there was a great festival in one of Atlanta's nicest in town neighborhoods, the beer and champagne was flowing, there was brunch on the porch and kegs on the the patio. My brother came into Atlanta for the first time and was just amazed...his words exactly..."I can see why you love Atlanta so much". Its true. Atlanta doesn't have that 'city' feel of many major US cities, but what it does have cannot be replicated. If you haven't been to Atlanta in the Spring or the Fall, you have to make the trip. The Summer, I will agree is a bit hot, so stick to the Spring and Fall. I met two contractors over at the new house to get quotes on the remodel. I also decided to put pocket doors in my new closet. I'm sure that doesn't sounds very exciting, but after working with an architect for 3 weeks to finalize the plans, its a big deal. Now I just need to find 30 inch pocket doors, a challenge since the standard size is 36 inches. The weekend wrapped up with the first patio party at Loca Luna...flirting was a lot of fun and one of the Varsity Co-Captains is back on the market. May is almost here, which means another b-day...I actually had a dream I found a gray hair! I worry about that stuff too much...

To Judge or not to Judge

2007-04-27T11:24:00.000-07:00

One of the problems I feel we have in our country today is the inherent need some people feel to judge others. What makes it 'OK' for somebody to push their views, whether religious or other, onto a non-willing participant. If most Americans just focused their energy inward and worked on being better people themselves, we'd have a more introspective and peaceful country. But, no. We have to deal with people pushing views, making judgement and creating personal hierarchy. Unfortunately, these poor folks are wasting their breathe with me. I just smile and nod...yes Jesus is my savior, I got it. Thanks.

Reconnect

2007-04-26T09:20:00.000-07:00

Did you ever reconnect with somebody from your past and realize that you still have feelings for this person? I literally got 'that feeling' in my stomach when I saw his email in my inbox. I'm glad to know that I can still actually feel that way about somebody and really wonder why I'm finding it so difficult to have that feeling again. Are all gay men just after the next party...the sex...being EXTREMELY aggressive to get what they want? I'm sure the straights are the same way, but in such a small community, it just seems so much more exacerbated. I'm very happy in Atlanta, but just need to find that missing piece (no pun intended) and after 12 years, I think I've finally realized that he will not be found as I peer through squinted eyes, late-night at a smoke filled bar. Is my late-night realization, too late?

Jimmy Buffet

2007-04-25T13:49:00.000-07:00

I'm heading to the Jimmy Buffet concert tonight down at Philips Arena...I'm a Jimmy Buffet virgin, so I'm looking forward to the experience. I also received the final plans for my new house renovations. Now all that I need is a contractor to actually complete the project. I called another contractor today and he told me that he could start the work in three months. Not so good. If you know if a good contractor in Atlanta...let me know!

Dragging

2007-04-24T08:18:00.000-07:00

No, I'm not talking about playing dress up...I'm talking about how I have been feeling that past couple days...I'm feeling like I have been dragging and severely need something, of what I don't know, to pick me up. The weekend was ok...ended up in Birmingham for a party called Rites of Spring at a really cool venue called Sloss Furnaces. They used to make Pig Iron here. Not sure what Pig Iron is, but we were able to roam the old factory and let me tell ya...it has more nooks and crannies than any Thomas' English Muffin I have seen. I really don't want to know what was going on in each of the crannies, but people continuously appeared and disappeared into and out of the darkness. If it was better attended, it might have been ok fun, but it was basically a 5 out of 10. On the way back from B-ham, I got sick and not hung-over sick, but just plain old, sweaty palms, upset stomach, fever kind of sick. It doesn't happen to me very often, so I was kind of pissed that it was happening at all. I spent 3 hours on Sunday afternoon on the couch. Goodtimes. Woke up and felt better, but have been in a funk ever since. It didn't help that I received a toll violation notice from Irvine California. Let me just tell you...if you have an exit for a toll road which is a 50 cent charge and don't have a change machine...then fuck you. I just don't understand that bullshit. So now I get to pay $50 since they were too cheap to have a cashier or change machine. It all sounds so reasonable. Then I lose one of my new lifting gloves on the way home from the gym. That sounds really stupid, but I'm pissed anyhow. So that brings me here. To Tuesday. I'm just in a plain old funk.

One Day

2007-04-17T06:47:00.000-07:00

What a difference one day makes...yesterday I was drinking my coffee, relaxing and watching the Today Show, really not paying much attention to the news, interviews etc...today, not so much. What happened at Virginia Tech is absolutely unbelievable. How could one person kill 32 people? It's unreal. Hearing the stories from students who were in the classrooms when the shootings started is a bit uncomfortable, but fascinating. To hear how they barricaded themselves against the door, when the gunman was trying to get back into the room and then he began shooting through the door? Insane. To watch them give interviews, they are so stoic and matter-of-fact. Almost showing no emotion. I'm thinking that they are in shock...in a couple days, they will realize what happened and I hope they are provided with the support that they need. As we go through our day-to-day activities, we tend to keep our noses down and our eyes focused forward. How would we react in a situation like this? I'm angry just thinking about it, but what could have been done differently? I know we say this all the time, but life is fragile and most of the time, our exit from this Earth is out of our control. People always say, 'live life to its fullest.' It's hard to bust out of the norm on a day-to-day basis, but I'm going to continue to try.

Well Rested

2007-04-16T09:57:00.000-07:00

I woke up this morning at 7AM, wide awake. This normally doesn't happen. I'm normally dragging myself out of my bed and into the shower to wake up. Not this morning, I woke up, threw some clothes on and went down to Publix to buy some breakfast. I actually sat down, had a cup of coffee and breakfast while I watched the Today Show. It was kind of nice. I think my consumption curbing has helped me become more regulated and balanced. I had a few drinks on Friday, nothing crazy, zero drinks on Saturday (went to an amazing concert at the Tabernacle - Patty Griffin...if you don't know her, make an effort, she in absolutely amazing. She gives me the chills when she sings. I can't say enough about her ability to perform and amaze her audience) and a glass of wine and a marg on Sunday. Went to a party at Frank Green's (www.akafrankgreen.com) on Sunday and behaved myself. I had a great time catching up with a lot of people I don't see enough. The food was delicious, especially the Chicken Salad. I actually like not being hungover...its kind of opening up a new world for me...breakfast, waking up sans alarm clock and dropping some winter weight...I think the key is not going cold turkey...I do have my needs!

Spring?

2007-04-12T10:54:00.000-07:00

Is Spring actually trying to return to Atlanta? I see the sun today, but it remains cold and windy. At least I'll be able to get some opportunities to where my jackets before its 90 and unbearable. Back from NY and the Baptism. I'm always so torn about going home...I had a good time and love my family, but I just don't fit in up there any more. At one point I found myself in my parent's kitchen surrounded by relatives talking so boisterously you thought a fight was going to break out. Its just life in NY. I had to step outside to hear myself breath and relax a second. Of course it didn't help that I wasn't drinking over last weekend and everybody else was...I never thought I would feel peer pressure to drink or have a conversation with my Uncle about how dangerous mind eraser shots are...but I did. Only do one, no matter what you think at the time. Even my mom got into the act by pushing Sambuca on me after dinner. And I wonder where I get it from? Well, I held strong and didn't drink a drop...I even passed on the wine, oh I mean the blood of Christ, at Church. Its been a whole week since I had a drink...should I be proud or sad that I am actually glad I made it a week. I'm sure I'll have a drink or two this weekend since, well, its the weekend and I'm in Atlanta. Cheers!

British...

2007-04-04T10:11:00.000-07:00

Question: Where are all the cute British guys? When I went to London, they were sadly missing...

Answer: They are in the British Military...recently being pardoned in Iran:

Putting One Foot Forward

2007-04-03T07:29:00.000-07:00

Since April is Alcohol Awareness month, I've taken the self-test to determine if I am in fact alcoholic. Based on this test, everybody is an alcoholic. If you drink twice a week, and have 3-4 drinks per instance, you are a borderline alcoholic. They need to include a calculation for people who live in the South. 3-4 drinks? In a day? Have you been to Atlanta? First off, the way we make our drinks, 1 Bourbon and Coke at Blake's is 3-4 drinks. But, I sense my reaction is in fact the whole denial stage. So I've decided to not drink for 2 weeks. That was the suggestion of the test results...I'll see if I can "handle life situations without the support of alcohol". Sure, why not. I'm trying to loose weight anyway. I've also decided to run the Marine Corps Marathon in DC on October 28th...per a previous post, I've made a commitment, now I need to start putting one foot forward and develop a strong sense of conviction towards this goal. So no drinking (for 2 weeks) and a marathon. I think the fact that I'm heading home this weekend to see the Family and become my nephew's God Father has impacted me...I'm realizing I'm the only one who can change me to get what I want... (cue Michael Jackson's Man in the Mirror) ... fade to black... and scene.

A New Home

2007-04-02T09:54:00.000-07:00

I closed on my 3rd home today. It is a great 1920s Craftsman Bungalow in a part of Atlanta called the Old Fourth Ward. This part of town has been historically 'tough' but has been making strides over the past couple years towards regentrification. Boulevard, the main street just west of my new street, has been primarily Section 8 housing, but the city has recently closed and tore down a notorious food mart, which was the scene of many a shooting. As a result of this tear down along with a 4 building tear down across the street, Boulevard is beginning to have a new life. The city is in the process of repaving the street, which is always a good sign and a new Loft project was just finished 1/4 down the road from my house. This community will have over 100 new lofts and new retail/restaurants in the main floor. Also, the new Ponce Park Development has just started being built on Glen Iris with the tearing down of the National Linen building. Things are really changing. I think its a good investment and one that I will be glad I made in the next couple years. Now let the minor renovations begin!

Spring

2007-03-27T07:08:00.000-07:00

It is definitely Spring in Atlanta...it's not even April and the cars are covered with pollen. After watching the Atlanta ING Marathon on Sunday (and actually running about 8 miles just cheering for people and enjoying the atmosphere) I have a new realization that I am currently sans goals or life objectives. Watching those people struggle and make it to the end of the marathon really choked me up. It is a huge deal to finish a marathon. My first in NYC helped me understand what it meant to push yourself beyond what you think you can do. And, now, as my weeks drift into weekends and back to weeks again, what are my goals? To drink? To buy new jeans? I stay out late and sleep in? I'm not feeling it. I also want to help my friends set goals...it helps to surround yourself with people who are also working towards...something. We may not have the same goals, but I hope we can all understand that personal achievement and elevation is something you can't buy...it takes dedication and hard work. If I can get choked up watching people finish a marathon, I know I have it in me to push myself towards any goal I set.

The God Father

2007-03-21T13:01:00.000-07:00

To say it's been a while is a massive understatement. I've been traveling way too much and finally am slowing down. My brother asked me to be my nephew's God Father. Cool! Somebody that I can spoil! And how can you not want to spoil a boy that is so handsome!

File Under "What the Fuck?"

2006-12-06T10:48:00.001-08:00

Flatulence on plane sparks emergency landing

NASHVILLE, Tennessee (AP) -- It is considered polite to light a match after passing gas. Not while on a plane.

An American Airlines flight was forced to make an emergency landing Monday morning after a passenger lit a match to disguise the scent of flatulence, authorities said.
The Dallas-bound flight was diverted to Nashville after several passengers reported smelling burning sulfur from the matches, said Lynne Lowrance, spokeswoman for the Nashville International Airport Authority. All 99 passengers and five crew members were taken off and screened while the plane was searched and luggage was screened.

The FBI questioned a passenger who admitted she struck the matches in an attempt to conceal a "body odor," Lowrance said. She had an unspecified medical condition, authorities said.

"It's humorous in a way but you feel sorry for the individual, as well," she said. "It's unusual that someone would go to those measures to cover it up."

The flight took off again, but the woman was not allowed back on the plane. The woman, who was not identified, was not charged in the incident.

Back in the ATL

2006-11-27T12:29:00.000-08:00

Well, its been a while. After 2 months in San Diego and 2 weeks in Australia, I'm back in the ATL. Good to be home. Hopefully my friends haven't forgotten me. I know my roommate gave me that half-smiled "welcome home", as he has been enjoying his bachelor pad in our 15th floor condo. It will take me a while to get reacclimated to life in Atlanta...primarliy just the regularity of a schedule...which has been very eradicate the past few months. December will be a great month to ease back in with parties, dinners and holiday stuff...I'll be in NY for a bunch of days around Christmas to see family and I'm looking forward to that. Some highlights from my trip to Australia:

Visiting Melbourne and Sydney
Seeing U2 in Melbourne (amazing)
The Yarra Valley Wine Region
The Sydney Opera House
Walking over the Harbour Bridge
Wooloomooloo Pier for Thanksgiving Dinner
Bondi Beach
Meeting locals who still like Americans
Learning the difference between a Mate and a Bloke
Having a "No Worries" attitude

Back to work on day 1 after a long trip has been hard, but at least I'm not tired...its actually 7:30 AM Tuesday already in Australia and only 3:30 Monday here. I'm thinking I'll be crashing by 8PM tonight.

It's good to be home...cheers!

2006-09-22T09:55:00.000-07:00

Went out last night with the aforementioned bartender from the Hole...had a nice time actually...no petting, just genuine conversation and light flirting. How original? Don't think that it is going to turn into anything more...I'm really trying to ween back on dating in the hospitality industry...I am drawn to hard working, friendly, conversationalist who also almost always are waiters or bartenders - and it never works out...I should learn, but I get caught up and then its 3 weeks later and I'm saying I'll never do it again. Hmph. I am expecting a visitor this weekend...Steven is coming...since he lived here for a while, he is going to give me the full tour. I think Marcus is also coming in for a Sunday night stay...that will be nice...he's gonna wanna shake his booty some, so I'm sure we'll be out. This is weekend #2...I think I'm hanging in there...2 more and I'm back in the ATL for a visit! I hear the weather is great, which makes me very jealous...Fall is my favorite time of year...I can actually feel the cool crisp mornings right now...ahhhh...Helen?

My First Full Weekend

2006-09-18T13:30:00.000-07:00

Its Monday and I have survived my first full weekend in San Diego...I guess 'survived' is kind of pushing it, but it is difficult being in a new city and not knowing anybody...so here's a list of what I did this past weekend...

Went running in Mission Beach and Pacific Beach and watched the sunset - can I just say - ridiculous...over and over and over....
Almost killed myself trying to traverse the cliffs to Black's Beach...glad I did...
Went swimming in the Pacific Ocean, damn the water is cold
Went out to Bourbon Street and had a couple beers...met a few people and actually had some good conversations
Starting to figure out where the streets are located and my way around town
Felt completely out of place at Hamburger Mary's (now called Mo's) and left dejected...thanks to Twon for bringing me out of the dumps!
Went to The Hole and had a 180 degree turn around...right when I walked in I went to buy a beer and was greeted by the bartender offering me shots of Jaegermeister...now thats the way it should be!
Was given foresaid bartenders number and will hang out this week

I'd have to say, we sometimes take close friendships for granted...when they are not there we realize how much our friends mean to us.

California...

2006-09-11T15:48:00.000-07:00

Am I soon going to be cruising down the 101? Probably not because A) I live in San Diego, the 101 is in LA and B) Nobody cruises down the 101...it's pretty much always a parking lot. I got into San Diego last night and finally was able to settle in around 9PM...midnight my time. Got a cool car... a 2006 Ford Mustang hard-top - red ... Drove around my new neighborhood...Little Italy...very cool. Was amazed at my 8 minute commute this morning...that was a first for me...mine usually runs ~25 mins...I'm going to head out for a run along the Pacific tonight after work. I'm looking forward to my 8 weeks out here...I'm a bit nervous over the fact that I don't know anybody in San Diego or even know where the grocery store is...but of course, leave it to Starbucks to have a store right on my corner. Now if I could only figure out how to get out of my apartment building without going through the parking garage...its weird not to have a TV at my access...how the hell am I suppose to watch Oprah! Oh well...this will be a great experience for me and I hope my friends come to visit - hint hint... one other thing ... crazy but I have had to wear my glasses for the first time consistently in 3 years. Is my vision getting worse or is it stress related? Or did I finally step into the deep end and I will now have to wear glasses/contacts for the rest of my life? Getting older is so much fun.

Ha!

2006-09-06T13:40:00.000-07:00

Danny Boy

2006-08-30T06:30:00.000-07:00

My friend Danny is in town...he is thinking about moving back to the ATL...he is wearing me out... :) in a good way I guess. Last night we were out until 12 and the night before 3...its freakin Monday and Tuesday night ... I really can't keep up. Just found out that I may have a 7 week assignment in San Diego... wow. That could be fun. It will actually give me something to write about for this blog...

It's Been A While

2006-08-24T12:32:00.000-07:00

These past couple weeks have been quite hectic. I'm moving on Saturday to a new condo in Midtown Atlanta...looking forward to the change. As a result I have been going through all of my "stuff" and getting rid of a lot of unneeded items...the Salvation Army loves me these days...moving is a bit stressful, but also refreshing as I'm clearing out a lot of crap (why was I lugging around text books and notebooks from Freshman Year Macro-Economics for the past 10 years?) I'm also looking forward to the change in environment. I really am elated to be moving out of my Loft...concept was good, but not for me. I'm also getting a roommate, something that I have been without for the past 7 years...we'll see how that goes...Marky doesn't know what he is getting himself into :) . Kidding of course.

Just got back from a work trip to New Orleans yesterday...wow that city is still in tough shape. Quite sad. It was weird to see all the houses with the spray paint on them...still...they look like they haven't been touched. I also noticed that the vibe is just off...this is the first time in all my trips to New Orleans that I didn't make it down to The Pub for a drink...it just doesn't seem ready yet for the city to be back...I hope it returns to its former self real soon...

Man, McKinney's Really Lost It - Literally

2006-08-10T07:32:00.000-07:00

I'll miss being able to tell people, yup, she's from Georgia ... and we all remember what Julia Sugarbaker once said "We're proud of our crazy people. We don't hide them up in the attic. We let them down and parade them around for everybody to see."

I'll miss you Cynthia :(

Getting Better

2006-08-02T11:57:00.000-07:00

I've been dealing with getting better at handling relationships or better yet, the lack there of. I ran into a previous youth that I was dealing in on Friday night...what did I see in him? I think it is human nature that when you show somebody interest and they show interest, then without rhyme or reason blow you off - you get sucked into a self destructive spiral... why do we do this? Why do we try and try to regain attention of somebody that is either not interested or oblivious to the situation. The older I get the more I'm saying ... fuck off loser ... and moving on. That's my story and I'm sticking to it.

P-Town Memories with Lance Bass

2006-07-26T10:35:00.000-07:00

So now that Lance Bass is actually out of the closet and on the cover of People Magazine telling the world that he is gay I can share with you the details from P-Town in a blog entry I'm calling "P-Town Memories with Lance Bass".

I met Lance through Reichen, who I know through a very good friend in LA. Lance, let me just say, was a really cool down to earth guy ... we had a lot of fun and our make out during the "make out" contest was what I think put him over the edge to come out. These lips are known to leave the boys wanting more.

So that's my P-Town Lance Bass story. I'm happy for him and glad that he is now happy and free to be himself! In addition, although it may not be realized...these "coming outs" of stars (that may seem to be insignificant to some of us in real life) actually helps to change the environment (public attitudes) for all of us...little by little we all make a difference in fighting bigotry, hate and intolerance...

Haley, Haley, Haley

2006-07-20T06:58:00.000-07:00

Haley Joel Osment in hospital after accident
‘Sixth Sense’ star loses control of car driving back to L.A. home

LA CANADA FLINTRIDGE, Calif. - Haley Joel Osment was hospitalized early Thursday after he apparently lost control of his car while heading to his Los Angeles area home, authorities said.
Osment, who was nominated for an Academy Award for his role as a boy who could see dead people in "The Sixth Sense," was driving a 1995 Saturn about 1 a.m. when the car collided with a brick pillar and flipped, said Los Angeles County sheriff's Lt. Greg Sisneros.
The 18-year-old actor was awake and talking following the crash, Sisneros said. He had been alone in the car and was taken to Huntington Hospital in nearby Pasadena.

Haley...it sucks that you "lost control" of your car...but what sucks more is that you lost control of a 1995 Saturn...what the fuck? You were nominated for a freaking Academy Award...get off the booze and get a real car...at a minimum, one from this century.

Elijah Wood

2006-07-19T12:24:00.000-07:00

I ran across this website:

http://www.veryverygay.com/elijahwood/ewivvg.html

It made me laugh...and that's always a good thing...except when your in bed with a mate and you left David Letterman on the TV...laughing at David's jokes during an intimate moment = not so good.

Happy Blogiversary

2006-07-18T07:05:00.000-07:00

Today is my 1 year anniversary for starting my Blog. I really don't remember why I decided to start this blog, although, it has been a good way for me to put thoughts down and keep a written log of what has been happening over the last year. As I go back and read some of the previous posts, its interesting what I found to be important or what I was struggling with...in hindsight a majority of those things were inconsequential. But we do this everyday in our daily lives...we worry about things that we can't control and blow other things way out of proportion. Its also fun to go back and relive some of the good times I've had over the last year... went to Buenos Aires, ran the San Diego Marathon, Charlie, trips to P-Town, Pensacola, Helen, etc...all in all its been a great year. Looking into the future one year, I'm going to try and do a better job of defining what I want and how I'm going to get it. I just had a conversation with a close friend about how he is always trying to help out other people. What about helping out yourself? When do you put yourself first? For me I'm looking to the next year to do that...on my second blogiversary, I hope that I will have had a successful year and plenty more to reflect upon.

Happy Bastille Day

2006-07-14T11:50:00.000-07:00

So I've been traveling all week long for work...and it has been a test of my patience that's for sure. Both return flights to Atlanta were delayed and when I finally did get on the plane from Philly I was seated next to the World's Champion Gum Snapper - I seriously ain't kidding. If there is something I can't stand, its the sound of somebody chewing gum like a freaking cow and snapping it all along the way. I wasn't going to say anything, but when we got on the runway and were told that we were 25th in line for take-off...I just couldn't take being held captive anymore.

Me: Excuse me...tap...tap
Champion Gum Snapper: Yes...snap, snap, snap
Me: Do you realize how loud you are chewing your gum?
Champion Gum Snapper: What? Is it loud?
Me: Um, yes
Champion Gun Snapper: I'm so embarrassed
Me: You should be. (said while putting back on iPod)

Gum snapping ceased.

Then on my way back from Roanoke, the Flight Attendant Call button short circuited...so we had to listen to that "Ding, Ding" constantly for about an hour...talk about different forms of Chinese Water Torture. I actually found it amusing to see how angry some people got...one guy decided that punching the back of the seat in front of him would relieve some of his stress...it only made the woman in that seat concerned for her safety...oh, the friendly skies.

No real hook up news from my P-Town stay over the 4th...a little snuggling with a cutey from Boston and a missed opportunity with Captain Alaska. I just didn't know he was that interested until he hunted me down after the trip...too late...

This weekend I would like to turn in some of my goodness for debauchery....I hope I can find some takers.

More Exciting

2006-07-10T08:52:00.000-07:00

I've decided that my posts are to get a bit more exciting...after reading back on a couple of previous posts...yawn...so here is my first attempt...

Why did I get a text message from a past boy that read "Country Gays sure are interesting"...what the hell does that mean and why at 11:30 at night? In my attempt to rationalize, maybe he is flirting or trying to just say hey, Twon brought me back to reality..."Isn't he now dating Lynn? L-Y ... M-A, y'all are probably just next to each other and he made a mistake with his text...he was probably trying to send it to Lynn. Hmph! Probably so...thanks Twon.

Getting real excited about building a house on the periphery of Candler Park...its only .2 miles from the "boundary", but if I can build the house I want, I'll be mighty excited...the fact that my lot backs up to the ghetto only provides me with the knowledge that lawn help is just a stones throw away

Twon, MaHo and I have set a September 21st deadline for getting boyfriends. If we don't, then we will drink ourselves into a weekend of memory losses.

I've emailed and texted all the boys I met in P-Town...that is a total of 5....its always good to keep in touch with people in other cities - you never know when you will need a place to crash

Traveling this week for work and getting some additional trips scheduled for Denver, New Orleans/Baton Rouge and Boston/Providence for August

I will not date somebody who does not live in Atlanta. I have to keep telling myself this

Back from the Cape

2006-07-06T06:34:00.000-07:00

P-Town 2006 has come to a close - for me at least. I left yesterday and after 6 hours of travel, Ferry to Taxi to Plane to Subway, I made it home. I slept like a baby last night and really needed that. I barely made it out of bed this morning, but here I am - at work with hundreds of emails and a full day of meetings. Awesome. P-Town was great this year. A bit more relaxing, since we didn't do all the parties, but went out every night to the bars. The one party we went to was the big party on Saturday Night - which was a lot of fun - it was held out in an Airport Hangar, which proved to be a very unique space. Actually went to the beach this year, which is beautiful. Typical Cape Cod, with sand dunes, marshy grasses and pebbled beaches. It really is amazing. Met some really great people, drank a lot, ate lots of pizza, sat back and admired the harsh 'Boston' attitudes, enjoyed time with the boys, dodged kamikaze mosquitoes and made amazing memories. Coming home a few days early was a good thing for me...I get worn out from day after day of partying. Last year I was worn out and sick for about 10 days. I'm feeling good today, but do miss P-Town already. Next year, if I go, I'd like to stay the whole week, but not go out every night. The weather was great - a bit hot actually, but no rain until the last day. I'll get some pictures posted soon...

2 Days

2006-06-29T07:36:00.000-07:00

2 days until P-Town. Actually not even, my flight is at 8:30 on Saturday morning! Crazy shit. I'm pysched to head out to the Cape and the weather looks amazing this year! I love spending time with my boys...I don't say this much, as I'm still somewhat characterized by my Yankee harshness, but if I didn't have my boys, I honestly don't think life would be as good as it is. To me, life is not about what you can buy, what you can wear, where you live, who you do (and how many you do), but its about what you feel, how often you laugh and how you are accepted. My friends accept me for who I am and are there for me when I bitch and complain, and that doesn't happen very often at all, letmetellya. Also they laugh at my stupid jokes and we are caustic to each other, which is suprisingly funny and not harsh. I don't know. I really can't explain it, but our entire lives we look to find a group of friends with whom you feel comfortable and accepted. I'm lucky to have found mine and although some of us have moved on to other cities, when we get back together it is truly a friendship that time has not faltered. I'm looking forward to P-Town for the escape from work, Atlanta and most of all to be with the boys who help create a shelter for me from the real world.

Post Pride

2006-06-27T09:35:00.000-07:00

This past weekend was the big Pride fest in Atlanta. Once again, it rained on our Parade, literally, but that didn't ruin the weekend by any means. In fact we needed the rain - so it was welcomed. Friday night was the Clash of the Couture Party in Roswell...which is really far away y'all...exit 7B off 400...we were in the boonies...but we had a lot of fun...Saturday I spent 5 hours in Piedmont Park absorbing the festivities...there are some interesting folks out there...I think all of Alabama and Tennessee made the trip down...spent the night at Wet and had a great time...Sunday was the rainy Parade...parties in Midtown (Erik's from Well, Well, Well - see link on the side bar - was great!) and a tragic, tragic trip to 1150. That was not my scene, not even close. We ended up at Fontaine's flirting with a girl who was asking us about our corn on the cob...are girls really that aggressive and upfront? She was fun, I wish more guys were like that instead of being so evasive. All in all it was another great Pride. Next weekend its off to P-Town for July 4th to do it all over again...

I'm Not Ready to Make Nice

2006-06-22T10:35:00.000-07:00

The new Dixie Chicks Album is amazing. Go get it, listen to it, digest it, enjoy it and revel in their ability to stand up, stand proud and be Americans, in the truest sense of the word.

Atlanta Marathon

2006-06-20T10:01:00.000-07:00

It was recently announced that Atlanta will host a brand new Marathon on March 25th 2007. ING which sponsors the NYC Marathon, Ottowa Marathon and the Taipei Marathon (to name a few), will also be the Atlanta Sponsor. That's some good company! The course will wind through some of Atlanta's most historic neighborhoods and will finish heading down Peachtree Street for the last 3 miles...it is a bit hilly in Atlanta for a marathon, but I'm willing to step up and support my home town for its inaugural run!!!

People Magazine...Come On Now...

2006-06-15T06:35:00.000-07:00

People Magazine just published their list of the hottest bachelors...who was #1? Was it Matthew McConaughey, Nick Lachey, Jake Gyllenhaal, Kenny Chesney, Jamie Foxx, Owen Wilson or Wentworth Miller. Nope, none of the above. In their imperial wisdom, People Magazine has selected this fella:

What a joke.

What's Going On?

2006-06-13T10:33:00.000-07:00

What is going on in our Country these past couple weeks? Here is a list that just befuddles me...

Ann Coulter - what a fucking bitch.
The Amendment to Ban Gay Marriage to preserve the sanctity of the Marriage Institution...what a bunch of bullshit - 50% of marriages end in divorce - does this say a great institution?
Gay Bashing and Hate Crimes in NY...the youths say that they didn't know he was gay...the yelling of "Die Faggot" and the fact that he is a famous entertainer/drag queen says otherwise...enjoy prison boys...
The blown out of proportion reporting on a weak tropical system - TS Alberto - Fox went so far to show a large puddle in the street and declare that the storm has caused widespread flooding - enough already and it's only June. A season full of sensational and exaggerated reporting awaits us - awesome!
The great American divide...as shown in this picture from Florida, we are growing further and further apart - red states and blue states...will we ever be a United States again? What is wrong with these people?

Marathon = Done

2006-06-06T07:08:00.000-07:00

Just got back from San Diego...had a great weekend...it is always great when you can spend 3 days with friends and instead of being glad they are over, you're sad because you had such a great time. Booty, Jeff, Twon and I spent this past weekend in San Diego, primarily for the Marathon, but it turned into a great weekend trip. The Marathon was so-so, I' d have to say...I was a bit disappointed in the course...I thought it was too hilly and that really took its toll on me. Also the grade of the road was such that it felt like you were running on an angle a lot of the way. I hit my target - kind of - I didn't get the 3:30 I was hoping for, but I did knock off 30 mins from my NYC marathon time and the 3:30 was just with in my reach. If I could just make those last 6 miles a bit more easy - but I guess that's why its called a marathon...it is not only a physical challenge, but a true mental challenge as well. My legs feel sore, but not in a bad way...no injuries, thankfully and I am seriously thinking about another marathon, but not for a while...maybe Disney in January? Nice weather and flat!!! Marathoners are an interesting group - die-hards for sure and a lot of fun. I wouldn't say that I'm a true marathoner yet, but maybe, I feel like I have been bitten by the bug just a little.

San Diego Marathon

2006-06-01T07:37:00.000-07:00

The marathon is quickly approaching...it is this Sunday to be exact...I'm worried that I actually peaked about 2 weeks ago...I had the most amazing 12 mile run...~7:10 pace and felt great...I haven't felt good since then...oh well, at least the training for this marathon has been great...no real injuries and I kept my head in it for the most part. I'll keep my head up and think positive thoughts for Sunday...I'm still targeting 3:30 and I think I should be ok...the weather looks amazing for San Diego on Sunday and I can guarantee that we will be the first boys lined up at the bar for beers post race...I need to remember its all about having fun!

Post P-Cola Wrap Up

2006-05-31T11:25:00.000-07:00

Got home yesterday from a 5 day trip to the most beautiful beaches in the Continental US...Florida's Gulf coast - the Emerald Coast. We embarked on our much anticipated voyage to Pensacola Beach (PB) last Friday, having sat out last year due to Hurricane Ivan. Sadly, although PB is coming back, a large number of the houses out on the barrier island are completely gone. It is really insane. Two houses that we have stayed at in past trips are nothing more than a pile of sand. I hope PB can make a full recovery. The trip was amazing. This was the first year we actually had a house on the ocean side of the street. When you walked out the back sliding glass doors, you were on a huge deck looking over the beach and ocean...amazing. Sleeping with the doors open and feeling the cool ocean breeze, while hearing the waves is like nothing else. No wonder people continue to build on beaches, knowing that it could all be ruined by a hurricane...it’s that nice and worth the gamble. Friday night we went to my favorite party of the year...its way out on the beach, but set up with a huge stage, with lights, a huge system and amazing sound. The sky was completely clear and the stars were bright. There is nothing like this party. Saturday, Sunday and Monday involved drinking, a lot, on the beach, in the ocean and back at the house. Cranky Donkey did come and visit a couple times, but this was due to a lack of sleep and continuous drinking. We calmed him down with a Xanax and sent him to bed early Saturday, Sunday and Monday nights. There are too many specifics to get into on what happened during our stay, but the memories are vivid with me. The only downfalls were my missing compadres, Jason B and Twon. Next year, we'll all be there!

In the Minority

2006-05-25T06:42:00.000-07:00

I'm in the minority on this one...

Live Vote on MSNBC:

Do you think Indiana high school senior Kevin Logan should have been denied entrance to the prom because he wore a dress? * 18141 responses

Yes: 40%
No: 60%

Not a scientific survey. Results may not total 100% due to rounding.

I honestly do not think this is appropriate. Reading through the article, "Gay Indiana teen who dressed as girl all year considers filing complaint" disturbs me. We continue to try, year after year, to get away from the stereotype of being gay equals being feminine. Now don't get me wrong, I understand drag and have had fun with my friends from time to time...but, this is just overboard. And when it reaches this level, being reported in MSNBC to all of the world, naive and ignorant Middle America take two steps back in their thoughts regarding gays. It really, really, really pisses me off. And he/she didn't even look good.

Presentation

2006-05-22T07:59:00.000-07:00

As much as I am a fucking nut and love to be a big goof ball...things are a changing kids - at least for the initial presentation phase. Last night David and I spent some time thinking about presentation. What makes somebody more attractive during an initial impression and what are 'turn offs'? I, for a very long time, have put having fun - which includes being sarcastic and goofy in front of other more laid back approaches. I have always thought - if my friends laugh and have fun with me, then that's the image I want to use with meeting new people. Wrong, wrong, wrong. Eventually that goofy side can come out, but the problem I think we have here is first impressions. My friends know me and know that I'm kidding around and being goofy...when I meet somebody for the first time, they don't get the inside jokes and probably wonder why I'm such a goof. So, as a result of this self-analysis, my approach is now going to be different...I'll keep you posted on my results.

Will and Grace

2006-05-18T08:33:00.000-07:00

The end is here...

It’s been an amazing ride. Who would have thought that a program focusing on gay themes and involving openly gay characters would have been embraced so whole-heartedly by the American Public? In a time of our history, where gay rights and open discrimination has taken center stage, one would think that the apprehension to the gay culture in general would be reflected in popular culture and mass media. But, no. Will and Grace have thrived for the past 8 seasons. How is this possible? Perhaps the small majority with loud voices and deep pockets that has driven their views and are shoving their discrimination agenda down our throats do not represent all Americans. Perhaps the people who do go out and vote (usually a measly 25% or less) do not represent the real American viewpoints. Perhaps the Neilsen ratings are a better litmus test for the real American pulse on issues that affect us all. Will and Grace is definitely a ground breaking show. I have sat and laughed my ass off at this show and at times completely forget that the show centers on gay characters. I hope that the rest of America has had a similar experience. This may be the end of a great series, but only the beginning of a long battle for acceptance, that had gained prominence and character thanks to the well balanced approach and conscience focus of a show we all will miss for more than just the laughs.

2006-05-17T06:50:00.000-07:00

Why Southern Conservative Religious Red Necks even give a shit blows my mind - we live in America, right? But a least a small victory for the sane minority:

Georgia's Same Sex Marriage Ban Tossed Out
POSTED: 5:59 am EDT May 17, 2006
UPDATED: 7:25 am EDT May 17, 2006

ATLANTA -- A Superior Court judge ruled today that Georgia's ban on same-sex marriages violates the state Constitution's single-subject rule for ballot questions. Judge Constance Russell of Fulton County overturned the amendment, which was approved by Georgia voters by a three-to-one margin in 2004.

Russell said that before the state's voters can be asked to decide whether same-sex marriages should be banned, they must first decide whether same-sex relationships should have any legal status before the law, such as through a civil union.

Governor Perdue said he was disappointed by the decision, which he said runs contrary to the voice of Georgia voters in defining marriage as a union between a man and a woman. Perdue said the voters knew what they were voting on, and he said it is sad that a single judge had reversed their vote.

Perdue said the state is considering its options, which include appealing the decision directly to the Georgia Supreme Court.

Activists had long awaited Russell's ruling in their court challenge, which was filed soon after the November 2004 vote. A lawyer who challenged the amendment on behalf of the gay rights organization Lambda Legal, called the ruling "a victory for the voters."

The lawyer, Jack Senterfitt, said it protects the right of voters to make independent decisions on each independent issue.

2006-05-11T10:14:00.000-07:00

This shows the interest level of Americans. Listed below in order of most viewed to least are the top stories from CNN.com on Thursday May 11th at 1PM. I love America.

Has Ashlee Simpson had a nose job?
Shock at 'Idol' boot
Cruise's popularity on the skids?
Immigrants were trapped, shivering
Bush: We're not trolling your personal life
Priest convicted of murdering nun
Dobbs to president: Do you take us for fools?
Germ killed more than RU-486 users
DJ fired over on-air remarks
I-95 to be closed for days
Texas teen near death with rabies

Knocked Up Baby, One More Time

2006-05-10T06:04:00.000-07:00

Britney...congrats...you can take the girl out of Louisiana, but you can't never take Louisiana out of the girl. You knew you were going on Letterman...you knew this would be picked up as big news...you're not stupid about things like this - in fact you're quite smart - 5 mins of face time and your spread all over the media like your legs are at home...but Britney, come one...just because your busy getting busy, doesn't mean you can't run a come through your hair. Girl, git it together! The headband ain't cutting it.

2006-05-09T11:48:00.000-07:00

How's about a list...its been a while since my last one:

My loft is up for sale...anybody interested?
In a funky mood today...terrible Tuesdays; but there was no fun on Saturday or Sunday...hum...
Texting is a communication I still don't understand...
Running 10 miles today...should be oodles of fun
Looking at a few houses after work...will the Atlanta market crash? That's my big concern...
If a house is listed for $400K, the floors should be level...I'm just saying
Work...blah...
Taking advice from a 50 yr old woman on relationships...she know's what she's talking about
The new one...keeping in on easy street...
DaVinci Code is addictive reading
P-Cola...take me away!

Last Long Run, I Think

2006-05-08T06:26:00.000-07:00

Dodged some rainy conditions yesterday to get in my last long run for my San Diego Marathon training. Did 22 yesterday and actually felt pretty good...averaged just under 8 min pace and had a great last 4 miles (thanks Twon!). Maybe I'm actually getting ready for this race. It doesn't seem so insurmountable anymore. I think my horrid memories of the NYC Marathon are finally beginning to fade away. I may do one more 20 mile run in 2 weeks, but it would be real slow, so my legs don't get fatigued. My legs feel fine, nothing hurts and I feel as if I could run today, but I won't. All in all I had a pretty great weekend. My neighbors, who are consistently inconsiderate, decided to have a party on Saturday night that lasted until 2AM. Since we live in lofts, the noise definitely carries. So on Sunday morning ~9 AM, when I was getting ready for my run, I decided that there is nothing better on a rainy Sunday morning than a cup of coffee and Steely Dan's Greatest Hits...loud enough for my neighbors to enjoy as well, of course. On Friday night I got a call from the cute new potential, it was about 9 and he had already had 4 margaritas from Zocalo. If you're from Atlanta, you know what that means...drunk! So I saved him from stumbling home and we hung out. He is pretty much adorable. So far so good. I also saw Mission Impossible 3 this weekend. As much as Tom Cruise is a loser in real life, this movie is worth a view, it was really good...check it out.

The Night the Lights Went Out in Georgia

2006-05-05T09:36:00.000-07:00

If you happened to be in Midtown Atlanta last night and noticed an interruption in your power service for about 5 seconds around 10:30...sorry...note to all, don't let Mylar Balloons go around power lines. If they happen to get caught in the lines, it could result in a minor explosion and loss of power for an entire neighborhood. Thankfully the power came back on, but the explosion was seen from as far away as The Plaza Midtown about a 1/2 mile away. Good times.

More information:

Foil balloons, also referred to as metallic or mylar and are actually two sheets of plastic (polyethylene) and nylon that are sandwiched together, then coated with a thin layer of aluminum. Mylar balloons first appeared in New York City in the late 70's and quickly became popular worldwide. A mylar balloon can float 30 times longer than a standard latex balloon. Foil (metallic) balloons are not biodegradable and they can (and will) conduct electricity, they should never be released outdoors because they could become entangled with power lines and lead to power outages.

Who knew?

DaVinci Code

2006-05-03T08:52:00.000-07:00

I just started reading the DaVinci code this week...I know that I am about 2 years behind in reading this book, but with the movie coming out, I wanted to read it first before Richie Cunningham ruined it for me. I already can't get Tom Hanks out of my head...I really don't see him being Langdon, but my mind won't let me think otherwise. Thankfully Sophie Neveu is still forming in my mind. That's why I love reading a book before seeing the movie...I don't like being told what the person looks like or how the scene should be set. This book is great so far and touches on the basic foundation of religion. Religion, at its core, is fundamentally hypocritical. I could go on and on...but I think the book speaks for itself and I hope the movie lives up to the hype.

Runner's Etiquette

2006-05-01T06:51:00.000-07:00

Think about it this way...you're on the sidewalk in NYC, walking briskly and you catch up to a fellow pedestrian, pass them, as they are walking a bit slower. About 2 mins later, they pass you back. Hum. They were walking much slower just 2 mins ago. Whatever. So you continue on with your pace and pass them again. Or at least try to...they keep speeding up so you can't pass them. What the fuck? This happened to me on a run yesterday and to be honest, that is the most annoying thing a fellow runner can do. It is just bad runner's etiquette. If a runner passes you on a training run...do not pick up your pace and pass them back and then annoy the fuck out of them by keeping 2 steps ahead. This is not a race. I repeat, training runs are not races. All you amateur runners out there take note: I will be tripping the next runner who does this to me.

Going for a ride in Dollywood...

2006-04-27T12:19:00.000-07:00

2 Down, 2 To Go

2006-04-24T12:31:00.000-07:00

I finished my second 20 mile run yesterday. Very proud of myself. I actually ran this one about 7 minutes faster than last time...~8:10 pace...I even negative split this one, which means my second 10 miles was faster than my first 10 miles. Good times. I've been slacking with the postings on my blog and for no particular reason...I was in LA for 3 days last week and travel usually makes me a bit tired. Had a great date on Friday, looked at a few houses on Saturday and spent Sunday running and drinking...my two favorite things. I'm getting real excited about the marathon...I actually think that a 3:30 is in reach. Only 2 more 20 mile runs before the big race and I think I'll be ready. It is so crazy to think that I can go out and run 20 miles and have a good time doing it. But its true. I really am enjoying running again and its been a long, long time since I could say that. Cheers!

Weekend in Review

2006-04-17T10:29:00.000-07:00

Happy Belated Easter/Passover...had a great weekend in Atlanta, although sometimes on Holiday's I do wish I could jump in the car and go see my family. With them in NY, it is just not as easy to do as some of my friends and I wish I could see them more. We had some amazing weather down here this past weekend...spent Friday catching up with an old friend at dinner, went to Steeple Chase (horse races in North Georgia) again this year and once again had to deal with the bigots from OTP that sit next to us. You know we are getting really annoyed when our conversation turns to past fights we have been in and questions about whether you've "got my back"...spent most of our time on the back stretch of the course with the ATL contingent and had a lot of fun...Saturday night was a hit with Karaoke - you really can't beat some drunk Karaoke...Sunday were the Drag Races - an Atlanta tradition - some of it was fun, but most of it was not...met a new prospect, drank some beers and called it a night. Classic spring weekend in the South.

2006-04-14T08:42:00.000-07:00

With all the rumors that Katie Holmes is faking her pregnancy, I had to go out and take a look for myself...I have two pregnant women in my office and let's just say that compared to them, this just looks ridiculously fake:

House Hunting, Literally

2006-04-13T10:58:00.000-07:00

While reviewing a few houses today, I ran across a picture that really makes me wonder about some people. Hey, I'm all for hunting if you want to go and kill Bambi, it's your right, but if you think that putting this picture in a realty listing is going to make people want to come and look at your house, you and your Realtor have been hitting it off the same pipe.

The picture is noticeably shaky and who can blame the photographer... I hope this house comes with a year's supply of smoked venison sausage.

2006-04-12T07:16:00.000-07:00

I just spent two days at the NCTA conference in Atlanta... that's the National Cable Television Association...it was a pretty great show. I really like working in the television industry... as I walked around the show I wonder how I could ever work outside this industry - where else can you go to the National show and have a booth for Hustler TV right next to the Gospel Music Channel or PlayGirl/PlayBoy next to World Wrestling Federation TV - at the Cable Show anything goes. It is also a great time to meet a few celebs here and there ... this year I met John Waters, Nancy Grace (who does not look good in person), Bodie Miller and Maria Bartiromo (a CNBC host - who is very hot). Lot's of new and innovative technologies were also displayed, like for example, the ability to download a new ring tone to your cell phone for a song you are watching on MTV...pretty cool. Anyway, it was a great show.

Ran my first 20 mile run on Sunday...I surprised myself at how easy it was and how good I felt. I guess training actually does work.

Ts

2006-04-07T10:46:00.000-07:00

A new store just opened in the Highlands brought to us by Bill Hallman... all t-shirts, all the time... I'm a jeans and t-shirt guy and can't wait to check this place out...

Houses

2006-04-06T09:53:00.000-07:00

I went to see 5 houses yesterday. One was too small, one was too big and needed too much work, one had bedrooms upstairs with no central air - we live in the deep south - hello?, one was was too IKEA - very compartmentalized and the last one wasn't so bad actually...good size, open spaces and even an inground pool. But the location was a bit far. I know there is a house out there for me somewhere, I'll just keep looking...getting ready for my long run this weekend...I've been thinking about it since last weeks long run...20 miles is very far and I need to be mentally prepared for it. The temps are looking to be in the 60's on Sunday, I am really excited to tackle this run. What's up with Mandisa getting the boot on Idol? Crazy shit. America has no freaking clue, even with a stupid reality show.

April, Will You Marry Me?

2006-04-05T08:43:00.000-07:00

How can you not love April in the South? Cool, crisp mornings; cloudless blue skies; beautiful high temps in the 70s; no humidity; trees blooming with amazing colors. To compare April in the South in more relatable terms, think amazingly hot Abercombie model (or a model of your choosing). Now you know what I'm talking about.

Introducing the Diva from DeKalb

2006-04-04T10:24:00.000-07:00

Ladies and Gentlemen, please join me in welcoming to my blog the fabulous, non-confrontational, dynamic and thank-the-lord not my Representative, one Miss Cynthia McKinney. Her Georgia constituents are so proud! If there's a lesson, or two, to learn here, it's 1. Don't mess with the South and 2. Don't get an Ogilvy home perm. You go girl!

Longest Yet

2006-04-03T10:44:00.000-07:00

My Monday began by being woken by a loud rain pounding on my metal roof. A very soothing way to wake up with the week in front of you. I stayed in bed a little extra today...I really don't like much about my loft, but I absolutely love laying in bed listening to the rain on my roof...so I had to take advantage of that just a bit more this morning. The weather this weekend was amazing. Temps just right and no humidity. Spent Friday night at The St. James and was home in bed by 11. Woke up on Saturday at 9AM. Amazing. I felt great...went to the gym, lifted and ran 6.2 on the treadmill...was out of there by 11 and had the rest of the day ahead of me. I'm in that mode now where I want something new...so In addition to looking for a new house, I'm looking for a new car. I'm thinking more and more about downsizing back to an Accord. But if I find a house first, the car may have to wait. Saturday night was chill...watched the Basketball games and went to bed at 11:30 (12:30) with DST. I think Sunday mornings (sans hangovers) are my favorite time of the week. I wake up ~9:15...walk downstairs, put the coffee on...flip on the TV and watch CBS Sunday Morning. I think this might be a reflection of my age...I really like this show. Then I throw on my running stuff...grab some water and a Balance Bar and head up to the Silver Comet. On my way I listen to Organic X on 99X ... the best radio show of the week. It's on from 9AM to 12PM Sundays. Even if your not from Atlanta check it out online, very worth it. Then I run. This Sunday it was 17.2 miles, my longest training run ever. I felt ok...but not nearly as good as my 14 two weeks ago. I spoke with my sister (a 3:07 marathoner) and she gave me some good advice. I need to drink gatorade when I run. I'm just drinking water and barely any of that. I'm going to have to figure out something for next week. By the end of my run my feet feel like they are going to bust out of my shoes...expanding feet, sure sign of too much salt in your blood stream. Next Sunday its 20 miles. Yikes. I'm keeping my fingers crossed for a good one. On tap for this week...house hunting!

2006-03-30T07:29:00.000-08:00

I've been feeling down in the dumps these past couple days...for reasons that are subsiding, I'm feeling better. It's just crazy how things can effect you and how you sometimes feel like things are spiraling out of control. It helps me to take myself out of commission for a few days and reevaluate. Honestly, your life is what you make it. If you need change, change but make sure you have a plan. I know that I'm feeling better when I see stupid shit like this and it makes me chuckle and want to cuddle with the kitty and puppy! Life isn't so tough, sometimes it just seems like it is.

Solar Eclipse

2006-03-29T10:49:00.000-08:00

In honor of the Solar Eclipse that is happening as I type, I have posted a picture from Nasa.gov ... just don't look directly at this picture...you'll burn your eyes out.

Missed Opportunities

2006-03-27T12:28:00.000-08:00

After a rash of emails and excitement, it seems that all of our hopes and dreams for an outing to the Masters Club on Cheshire Bridge Road have been dashed!

A Tribute to Reddick

2006-03-24T06:09:00.000-08:00

Well, I thought I was going to have two more games to get my JJ Reddick fill, but no. Since I don't watch NBA Basketball, last night was most likely the last time I'll watch him play a whole game. Too bad it ended on a sour note. It'll be ok...you'll be making Millions next year.

They Killed Chef! You Bastards!

2006-03-23T12:47:00.000-08:00

This is disturbing and amusing...South Park at its best.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2006/03/23/watch-the-episode-here_n_17744.html

Am I Black?

2006-03-22T09:39:00.000-08:00

I was listening to the radio on the way to work this morning and those crazy DeeJays asked Black folks to call up and ask questions to the White folks that they have always wondered about. So some people called up and asked the following questions...

Why do White people like to go hiking? I hate hiking.
Why do White people like extreme sports like sky diving? I hate extreme sports and have a fear of heights.
Why do White people like to swim far out into the ocean? I have a fear of sharks, so you can bet I won't be out over my head.
Why do White people try to use slang? I don't try to use slang, I can roll.
Why can't white people dance? I can get jiggy. (see how I use my slang appropriately)

So after listening to the radio show this morning, I thought...am I black? Then I caught a glimpse of myself it the rearview mirror...nope. There's that white boy from NY looking back...but damn, he's a kinda sexy white boy with some flava! Holla! (again proper use of slang)

Keep on Trucking

2006-03-20T10:07:00.000-08:00

I finished my first 40 mile week yesterday with a 14 mile run up at the Silver Comet Trail. It was a bit cold for an almost Spring run, but I had my winter hat on and was ok. I felt fine actually and averaged 8:15 pace. Much faster than I am supposed to be running according to the Marathon Training guide I am using...but since it felt comfortable, who was I to argue with my legs? I always say go faster if you can, who knows how you'll feel next week. I'm really only a little bit behind with my training...it is getting a bit frustrating and monotonous to continue having to use the treadmill...I'm hoping warm weather is on it's way soon! I'm also balancing my training and social life fairly well...I actually was home and asleep on Saturday night at 11PM. That is crazy, but I was worn out from Friday night (UAlbany almost pulled it off!) and needed to rest. This upcoming weekend will be another battle between going out and running. My friend Steven is turning 30 and we have a full weekend planned. But, I have to remember what my priorities are...I must, must, must run 17 miles on Sunday, no if ands or buts. It will happen and that will put me back on schedule, finally.

Quote Worth Reading

2006-03-14T09:31:00.000-08:00

Saturday, March 11, 2006

In Annapolis, (Capital of) Maryland, at a hearing on the proposed Constitutional Amendment to prohibit gay marriage, Jamie Raskin, professor of law at AU, was requested to testify and he did so.

At the conclusion of his testimony, a right-wing senator rose to say:

"Mr. Raskin, my Bible says that marriage shall occur only between a man and a woman. What do you have to say about that?"

Raskin replied:

"Senator, when you took your oath of office, you placed your hand on the Bible and swore to uphold the Constitution. You did not place your hand on the Constitution and swear to uphold the Bible."

The room erupted into applause.

UAlbany Great Danes

2006-03-13T07:59:00.000-08:00

I'm originally from upstate NY...Albany to be exact. So when University of Albany made it into the big dance this past weekend, we were all very excited for the University, the program and for the city. How many times has UAlbany been on a such a National Stage...not many...in fact the basketball program has only been Division 1 for 7 years, so making it to the National Basketball Tournament is a huge deal. Unfortunately, the selection committee placed UAlbany as a 16th seed up against number 1 seed UConn in the first round. Not an easy task for UAlbany. But, you can never say never. Not only was Albany settled by the Dutch (thus the UAlbany Great Danes), but Albany also has a large Irish population. Since they will be playing on St. Patrick's day, perhaps the luck of the Irish along with beginner's luck will bring them a win! If you don't believe in all that, then check this out:

Think UAlbany can't possibly beat UConn? Think again:

UConn lost 94-79 on Jan. 3 to Marquette ...
which lost 104-85 on Jan. 15 to West Virginia ...
which lost 58-52 on Jan. 25 to Marshall ...
which lost 71-66 on Dec. 29 to South Carolina State ...
which lost 68-67 on Jan. 23 to Coppin State ...
which lost 65-64 on Nov. 14 to Lehigh ...
which lost 57-53 on Dec. 4 to Cornell ...
which lost 68-59 on Jan. 9 to UAlbany
So there. Never say never.

Go UAlbany!

Welcome to Whiteville!

2006-03-09T13:32:00.000-08:00

A Suburban Atlanta Social Group sent out the following event information:

"Brokeback Mountain" Film Screening & Discussion

Greetings!
This Saturday, March 11th, all AWF members will have a chance to view "Brokeback Mountain" in a private setting and then share your thoughts with the group.

We will have a lively discussion after the movie to give everyone a chance to share their feelings about the film. We will then listen to old school music and watch classic Soul Train videos from the 70's & 80's which are truly entertaining! Pizza, wings and veggies will be served along with an open bar. This is a member-only event. Active members and one guest are invited to attend.

Oh...the straights...they sure do know how to have a good time. And I'm sure glad that there will be a lively discussion afterwards...must... soften... disgusting... display... of genuine love by allowing straights to dissent and infuse their homophobic views ... and of course then they will all watch Soul Train videos, eat chicken wings and make fun of the Blacks! Awesome! It should be called killing two birds with one stone night!

Welcome to Whiteville!

This is Ridiculous

2006-03-07T07:23:00.000-08:00

FREDERICK, Maryland (AP) -- Hood College is reviewing its homecoming rules after a lesbian was crowned king, a college official said. Jennifer Jones, the 21-year-old senior who beat out three men for the honor, said the crowning was a positive step for the private liberal arts college.
"It is cool that Hood allows people to be themselves," Jones told The Frederick News-Post. "If people didn't want me to be king, they wouldn't have nominated me and voted for me."
Jones, of Newark, Delaware, received 64 of 169 votes cast for king last month.

This is crazy. I'm all for people being themselves and busting the boundaries that have been established by the norms of society. But come on. You are a woman. The King and Queen of a Homecoming event are merely symbolic rituals. If she really wanted to buck society and impact changes, she would have run for Queen and been herself. A woman who, just because she is a lesbian doesn't need to be grouped with the men. Now this statement extends beyond the Hood College boundaries and is leaking into Middle America. Here is another example of how people can point to sexual preference as gender identification. All gay men are women, all lesbians are men. This is not the case and because of ridiculous antics like this, we continue to fight an uphill battle with society. Now the college is questioning whether gay men can run for Homecoming Queen. No. You are a man. You are not a woman. If you want to run for Homecoming Queen, get sexual reassignment surgery and give us a call. No balls, no sack? No King. It's that simple.

I would have loved to see Ms. Jennifer Jones, stand up to the other prissy Homecoming Queen candidates and win based on who she was, defending her right to choice and preference. But instead, she became a laughing stock of the college and the stand she thought she was making not only was not a stand at all, it was a knock down, drag back, ridiculous effort that failed miserably.

2006-03-06T07:19:00.000-08:00

Things that I learned this weekend, by Donks (aka (since Friday) Andy).
· It is very hard to try and petition for a nickname change
· Running is beginning to be fun again. Its been a very long time for me to get back to this point...over 10 years
· It's hard to stay up until 6AM and then get up at 11AM for a run through the mountains
· Just when you thought you had it all figured out, you don't
· 32? Just a number…flirting with and being pursued by college students is both flattering and odd
· Running with a great friend and talking the entire way is priceless
· Chaffing is...never...fun...and...a...pain...in...the...ass
· A classic night at the St. James makes you remember how much fun spending a night at home with friends can be
· If you want things in life, you need to make it happen. Nobody is going to give to you what they want for themselves
· Creating boundaries remove ambiguity and make open communication a reality
· Business and friendship should never be mixed
· Life's insecurities can be removed by willful examination, self confrontation and self acceptance. Once this happens others will see you in a much different light
· It's better to at least make an attempt than to sit back and let life pass you by
· When the weather is nice, I'm a much happier person
· Atlanta is a great place to live

2006-03-02T07:04:00.000-08:00

Back in town and back at the office. I had 3 great runs up in the mountains of Colorado. Yesterday, I felt great on my 6 mile run, to conclude my secret high altitude training. This should be a 38 mile week. Weirdly enough, I really never felt like the altitude had any effect on my running up there. I did notice however, when I go home last night to Atlanta, that it was in fact easier to breathe back down at sea level. I'm feeling Spring fever kicking in pretty strong. Not only do I want the weather to get nice real quick, but I'm actually really looking to go on a few dates pretty soon. I spent some time in Denver with my friend Chris and his bf Grant. They have been dating for about 3 years now... bought a house, have dogs, etc. I'm in the market for that. I read a comedic article on my way back to Atlanta about relationships. It was all about being single vs in a relationship. The article summed it up this way... either you are in a relationship which comes with its ups and downs, annoyances and bickering, and twists and turns or you're not and you're alone, king (in some cases replace king with queen) of your castle. It’s nice to be King, don’t get me wrong, but sometimes you wish for a coup and wouldn't mind breaking up the monarchy. Isn’t that what we all want? A knight to jump over our moat, climb the 10 foot thick wall we have built and over throw the King? Ok, maybe a better way to state it would be to throw down with the King. The rest we can discuss later.

Denver and Colorado Springs

2006-02-27T08:49:00.000-08:00

I'm out in Colorado for a cable industry conference. Flew into Denver and spent Saturday night with Jefe, Chris and Grant. As always, I had a great time. Had some sushi, got some drinks, got some Mardi Gras beads, played some drinking games and happily woke up sans hangover... it was a great night. Now I'm in Colorado Springs...staying at the Broadmoor. This place is huge and 5 star, my first 5 star hotel. My room is quite amazing...probably about 1,000 square feet. The bathroom is all marble and has two sinks as well as a huge stand alone bathtub. The king size bed is awesome. We all know about Heavenly beds from Westin...I think the Broadmoor has one upped the Westin on this one. I set up a wake up call for this morning and when the phone rang, I just picked it up and hung it up, like one would normally do with a wake up call. But then it rang again so I again picked it up and hung it up ... but then it rang again. I was all ... ok, I get it. So I answered the phone and there was a real person there ... a bit too happy for 7AM. She went on to tell me the forecast (which is awesome 70 and sunny) and asked me if I wanted to set up any spa treatments for the day. It was crazy - a real wake up call... kind of fun. I found a great running path that winds through downtown and up to the Airforce Academy. I'm doing my long run today since yesterday was all about relaxing ... 13 miles ... should be fun? Ok, well at least I will get it done. At the conference now with a break between sessions. Looking forward to my stay at the Broadmoor!

Urinetown, The Musical

2006-02-24T08:30:00.000-08:00

Last night, I went to see Urinetown the musical. When we finally found the theater (On Stage Atlanta), nestled quaintly between a Piccadilly and a Big Lots...we went downstairs unsure of what to expect. The theater looks fairly new, seating is comfortable and leg room is plentiful. It seats about ~110, or so and for our showing it was about 80% full. I'd have to say, not knowing anything about Urinetown, I was ultimately entertained. Erik, from the blog "well, well, well" had a lead role as the Narrator/Policeman. I thought that he did a great job. He had great interaction with Little Sally and the character fit his personality well. He also did great on the singing front. The cast as a whole sounded amazing together; they blended very, very well and the chorography was good for a small stage. All in all we had a great time. You know the sign of a good experience is when they leave you wanting more. Theater in Atlanta is not huge, but it's really nice to know that it is available and great quality!

13 Miles

2006-02-23T14:17:00.000-08:00

I've got my first long, long (over 10 miles) run on track for this weekend...I'm suppose to do it on Sunday, but since I will be in Denver on Sunday, I'm going to most likely do it on Saturday. I'm feeling good and bouncing back from my down week...mentally, I'm hanging in there! Even though I'm eating a lot, I'm actually still losing weight...down 4 pounds in 4 weeks. I guess if I stay on this track, I'll be down another 14 by the marathon...which is completely impossible. I don't have 14 pounds to lose. I guess I'm going to have to start bellying up to the all you can eat pasta bar. Going to see a play (actually a musical...it's called Urinetown) tonight that my friend Erik is in...I'm excited...expect a full report tomorrow...

Freedom of Speech, Freedom of Religion, Freedom to be an Asshole

2006-02-21T10:17:00.000-08:00

When I read this article on CNN.com I really couldn't believe it. I had to re-read it. I wonder if our forefathers are turning in their graves. How can our Constitution protect people like this?

"Shirley Phelps-Roper, a daughter of Fred Phelps and an attorney for the Topeka, Kansas-based church, said neither state laws nor the Patriot Guard can silence their message that God killed the soldiers because they fought for a country that embraces homosexuals. The scriptures are crystal clear that when God sets out to punish a nation, it is with the sword. An IED is just a broken-up sword," Phelps-Roper said. "Since that is his weapon of choice, our forum of choice has got to be a dead soldier's funeral."

(the congregation pickets soldiers funerals, telling them they got what they deserved for fighting in a war for a country that embraces homosexuality)

During the 1990s, church members were known mostly for picketing the funerals of AIDS victims, and they have long been tracked as a hate group by the Montgomery, Alabama-based Southern Poverty Law Center's Intelligence Project.

The project's deputy director, Heidi Beirich, said other groups have tried to counter Phelps' message, but none has been as organized as the Patriot Guard. "I'm not sure anybody has gone to this length to stand in solidarity," she said. "It's nice that these veterans and their supporters are trying to do something. I can't imagine anything worse, your loved one is killed in Iraq and you've got to deal with Fred Phelps."

I can't image anything worse either.

2006-02-21T08:36:00.000-08:00

Its Tuesday and my legs have that good hurt feeling...yesterday was cross training day, so I decided to stay away from all things cardio and focus on lifting...Legs and Biceps. Great workout. My legs feel good...and my biceps feel worked. Today is back to running. Since I'm heading to Colorado this weekend, I've been looking for good trail runs in Colorado Springs...I found one that runs up Pikes Peak. 12.8 miles up. I'm thinking that's a no. Since I have a 13 miler scheduled for Sunday, I'm looking for a flat course! I'll find one that will work. And since I will already be at a disadvantage due to the altitude, I'm really not looking forward to it, but I'm keeping on schedule GD! Made a great piece of Salmon last night and actually enjoyed eating some wild brown rice. Ok, I did use butter on the Salmon and the rice, but geez, I'm eating right, exercising, training for a marathon and it's almost March! I'm keeping on keeping on.

2006-02-20T10:34:00.000-08:00

A very smart friend of mine told me that once you become unavailable, it's amazing how much more you become an object of other's attraction. You know how it goes...you become all ga-ga over some guy and all of a sudden you are not acting like yourself and even when you talk with him, you say the stupidest shit. It's not who you are and you're not providing a real representation to this person about you, your personality and your general psyche. He does not look twice at you. Why though? What do you have to do? Honestly, I've noticed in the past few years, the more you portray and reflect indifference, the better off you are. It may be very hard for you to do, as it is for me, but its worth a shot. It is work. And it does take effort. But that's the way the game is played. And for all you people who say you don't play games, that in itself is a conscience decision and in essence, a game. Its just from my experience, but don't be so available, so attentive and therefore under appreciated. Do some blowing off, some ignoring, be more lackadaisical...you may just get the response you are looking for.

2006-02-16T09:14:00.000-08:00

Why do people ask themselves questions that they then answer? Does it annoy me? Yes it does. Do I understand why people do this? No I don't. Do I think that people should just make statements instead of asking themselves questions? Sure I do. Do I think this will happen? Never. Will we continue to hear annoying people ask themselves questions in meetings and in interviews? I'm confident we will. Interpersonal communication at its best.